It is fairly typical of Asian women to experience privilege within western society, and of course, marry white. It is only after they have children in their 30’s that they become interested in Asian culture in order to salvage what little they can of their children’s self esteem.
Lin is married to a man named Daniel Wolf. From Lin’s Wikipedia article:
Lin is the youngest of her generation, and has an older brother, Tan A. Lin, an English professor and poet. Growing up, she did not have many friends and stayed home a lot. She loved school and loved to study. When she was not studying, she took independent courses from Ohio University and spent her free time casting bronzes in the school foundry. Lin, having grown up as an Asian minority, has said that she “didn’t even realize” she was Chinese until later in life, and that it was not until her 30s that she had a desire to understand her cultural background. Commenting on her design of a new home for the Museum of Chinese in America near New York City’s Chinatown, Lin attached a personal significance to the project being a Chinese-related project because she wanted her two daughters to “know that part of their heritage”.
Don’t believe it? This excerpt from Kelly H Chong’s 2013 paper “Children and the Shifting Engagement with Racial/Ethnic Identity among Second- Generation Interracially Married Asian Americans” (link here) proves that Asian mothers are not invested at all in establishing a foundation of heritage and cultural awareness in their children, and only do so out of necessity.
When asked whether she would care about ethnic cultural maintenance had her kids been Euro-ethnic, she confessed that she would not, and that the reason she felt the need to reconnect to her ethnic culture was because her kids have an undeniable Asian appearance. (Chong, 2013; pg 202)