"I'm not racist, my wife is Asian!" What will happen when racist, far-right, anti-social, anti-diversity, anti-feminist, anti-black, anti-asian men marry "traditional, family oriented, submissive," extremely racist, abusive asian tiger moms who hope their children look white for privilege - and produce half asian sons who look totally asian - and hear "no asian guys", and have to deal with constant racism against asian men? An honest appraisal of self hatred and the frightening sociology of fetishes and their outcome.

Why does it seem that the men that pursue Asian women as a "last resort," are generally the most strange, racist, spiteful and hateful people – especially against Asian men, other minorities and white women? If Asian women prefer white men – why is this, and what happens to the children – especially if they look predominantly Asian? Compiled by Asian-looking Eurasians and Hapas themselves. A community effort to explore the unintended consequences of "white fever" and "yellow fever", racism, fetishes, power imbalances, stereotypes, and the effect it has on a staggeringly large, growing, and unexplored new demographic. Why does it seem the children of Asian men and white women fare better and are more successful? Why is there such a double standard against Asian men and white women, whereas Asian women essentially default to white men? What happens when Half Asian sons resemble Asian men? Why do so many white supremacists, alt-rightists, and white nationalists have Asian partners? Why do racist white men fetishize Asian women, and why do Asian women fetishize white men – and what does that mean for the children? Compiled by the son of a racist white father and a racist Chinese mother.

My son / daughter hates being Asian, what do I do? Advice for Asian moms.

It’s incredibly common complaint for Asian moms to say that their half Asian sons with racist, alt-right, loser white men don’t want to be Asian.

Well, after all, you didn’t want to be Asian either.

You wanted to marry “up,” and to marry a man who would make you feel like marrying was worth it. After all, you can’t marry for love.

You’re too good for that. You’re an Asian. You are calculating. You are strong. You are cold. Your world view is so incredibly nihilistic that marriage to a racist white man was your idea of “making it.”

Your son or daughter is now subject to the same racism that was being carried out by you – yes you, years ago, and now ironically you’re worried that your half-Asian son might face racism from women like you.

And he will! You’ve probably, somewhere along the line, attacked a half-Asian man, mistaking him for a full.

You did this! I’m not here to help you, only tell you what you can expect.

So as you scramble over your broken marriage, while both you and your balding husband are in a dead bedroom and both of you take out your anger on Asian men – despite your own son being bullied for being Asian (like Celeste Ng did, refusing to stop badmouthing Asian men despite raising an Asian looking son), trying to make enough money because your husband, unfortunately, is a loser who didn’t make enough money for that hot blonde he wanted – well, deal with it!

You did this, and if it was thirty years ago, you’d do it again, and again, and again. So why ask the question? You already knew the answer.

12 thoughts on “My son / daughter hates being Asian, what do I do? Advice for Asian moms.

  1. How about telling them to teach their kids to be proud of their Asianess instead of just assuming that they dislike Asian men simply because they had kids with a white guy. Even though parents like that exist, I doubt that this is the majority. Asian kids who hate being Asian might hate it because they get bullied at school. It’s one thing if you are just stating your experiences but it’s another thing to stereotype it as all WMAF couples. You cannot speak for most Asian mums with hapa sons but rather just your own.

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  2. Eh, it’s common enough. Everyone knows it happens. I’m not surprised your angry though; it’s hard being lumped in with literally every other anti-progressive WMAF couple.

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  3. Also, most half Asians hate being Asian because, frankly, well, Asians hate being Asian. Why do you think the intermarriage rate is so much higher than any other ethnic group; and despite a multicultural world – it’s always only a white guy.

    Yes, Asians are bullied and mocked. Yes, nobody, not even Asians, takes Asians seriously. Except for the women… they’re nice, sexy little replacements for those pesky non-Asian women. It’s so much easier to assimilate and integrate – isn’t it?

    Only one problem though; half-Asians never look white, and nobody ever forgets that we’re half Asian. Add to the fact that it’s socially acceptable for even Asian women to badmouth Asian men – which half-Asian men are.

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  4. I am a WMAF hapa but I’m proud of my Taiwanese side. I have a white dad and Asian mom and they raised me to be proud of my culture. My mother has never spoken badly of Asian men, in fact, a good friend of hers (who is also Asian) is married to an Asian man and they get along with my parents very well. So do you believe I’m supposed to suffer as a WMAF hapa? How am I supposed to feel? I can see that you are pushing your anti- WMAF propaganda too far. I don’t know how it is like for hapa boys but all I know is spreading hate towards WMAF couples only seems to encourage more internalized hatred for angry WMAF hapas. I am simply saying what normal people would say. Even if I wasn’t WMAF, I would still think you are taking this too far. So my question for you is: Do you believe I’m supposed to suffer because I am a WMAF hapa? How am I supposed to feel as a teenager with a white dad and Asian mom? Is being a “happy hapa” a crime?

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  5. Gaslighting. You yourself are FULLY aware of the potential for self-hatred when it comes to looking like an Asian male in the western world, where there is routine hatred being thrown at Asian looking guys by everyone, including many self-hating women.

    Every Hapa I’ve come across has been interested in discussing self-hatred, or, on the other hand, has participated in self hatred.

    By your willful ignorance, as well as your cultish optimism and flat out denial of issues, I’ll wager a guess that you’re about 16 or 17 years old. That, or have been conditioned by your mother to deny these issues, identify as white, and seek out integration into whiteness at all costs for practical use.

    In real life, off of this site, Hapa women, increasingly WMAF couples, and even AMWF couples look at me in real life wondering about what the condition of my life is, knowing fully well the frequency and commonality of self-hating Asian women married to right-wing dads. It’s been so common for me to be subjected to the Hapa / WMAF “gaze” where they try to size me up for how I fit their “ideal” of what a biracial should look like that it’s strongly affected my mental state.

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  6. First of all, I’m 15. I don’t know where you got that I’m older than that but ok then. Second of all, you are incorrect. I admit my mom told me that the Taiwanese are extra friendly to hapas (mixed Asians) but mom didn’t raise me to identify or show off my white-side. Whenever I state my racial identity, it’s always “half Asian, half white.” I choose not to identify as just white since I don’t wanna hide my Asian side. So I know very few hapas since sadly there is very few at my school, but the ones I know have no problem identifying as Asian. ( It’s mostly WMAF and one AMWF)

    And yes, I can see where WMAF hapa males may struggle a little mainly since their white fathers don’t understand the struggles of being an Asian man. Asian boys do sometimes face emasculation and Asians in general get little recognition in the US compared to other races. I don’t really think it’s as hellish as you’re making it.

    You said that hapa women and white-Asian couples look at you funny, wondering what your case is. It’s sounds like you had awful parents and I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a voice but there are people who have faced problems as severe as that but they got their voice heard without spreading toxic vibes. I think your case is a rare one where your parents are insanely toxic.

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  7. First of all, I’m 15. I don’t know where you got that I’m older than that but ok then. Second of all, you are incorrect. I admit my mom told me that the Taiwanese are extra friendly to hapas (mixed Asians) but mom didn’t raise me to identify or show off my white-side. Whenever I state my racial identity, it’s always “half Asian, half white.” I choose not to identify as just white since I don’t wanna hide my Asian side. So I know very few hapas since sadly there is very few at my school, but the ones I know have no problem identifying as Asian. ( It’s mostly WMAF and one AMWF)

    And yes, I can see where WMAF hapa males may struggle a little mainly since their white fathers don’t understand the struggles of being an Asian man. Asian boys do sometimes face emasculation and Asians in general get little recognition in the US compared to other races. I don’t really think it’s usually as hellish as you’re making it or as hellish as you may have had it.

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  8. I accidentally duplicated that other comment. Ignore that. Anyway, you said that hapa women and white-Asian couples look at you funny, wondering what your case is. It’s sounds like you had awful parents and your case is probably an extreme one. I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a voice. (I think you should seek therapy and get help.) but there are people who have faced problems as severe as that but they got their voice heard without spreading toxicity. It seems you are putting way too much emphasize on race. You are doing what people call racial stereotyping. Think of this, perhaps maybe most WMAF are just normal (like 2/3) but the bad ones stick to your mind more since they remind you of your parents. And there’s probably lots of bad WMAF but I believe most of them (the decent, non toxic ones like my parents) go by unnoticed. This is just how humans are. They see this certain thing as bad because of poor experiences and being conditioned or raised that way. For example: A woman that thinks that most (or all) black men are gonna knock them up then leave them because of Failed pass relationships with men that were black.

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  9. And btw, more about hapas. Hapa boys are typically treated Asian, yes. But what I’m trying to say is, it’s not as hellish as you’re making it. Some Asian boys face rejection or emasculation. I think the women that reject them are typically white but it hurts more when Asian chicks reject them since it’s like,not even their women want them. It must suck when that happens! But this isn’t the case for all. Some Asian/hapas dudes (even the wmaf ones) had a decent upbringing. This case isn’t far too rare. Perhaps some face that not cause they are Asian but for other reasons. Some hapas grow up fine. My dad (the white one) grew up horribly. His mom screamed a lot, beat him, his older brother was a jerk to him, nobody at school liked him, he grew up in poverty and even lived in a school bus (not even kidding, he literally told me that).

    There are plenty of Asian men who can score hot chicks and most Asian women would choose a hot Asian dude over an ugly white guy. Some date the ugly whitey for… well… many reasons….maybe he’s nice, compatible, or maybe she’s desperate or pities him or is super poor and/or grew up in an abusive household and wanted to escape poverty or get back at their parents.

    You make a list of failed WMAF offspring that have done bad and parade it around like “See? Told ya they are bad!” Some of them are like that for reasons unrelated to racial stuff. And what you’re doing is irrational. And I see through that and know why: you are mad. People who have faced horrible experiences can turn irrational and have a toxic view on the world. I’m not justifying your behavior since it’s not healthy or rational. Though I can kind of see why. I’m just offering a little perspective.

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  10. You’re completely breezing over the fact that 90% of the content on this website is also the fact that racist, leering white guys seem to have a penchant for Asian women. So your dad wasn’t racist? Fine. I can go out and find 100 in a few hours who are.

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  11. You’re 15. When I was 15 I had no concept of how the world worked. You obviously have a better than average grasp of it, but even when I was 15 I noticed something was wrong.

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  12. The content on this website goes far beyond the emasculation of Hapas. I talk far more about horrific identity issues, racist white men and their yellow fever, as well as a variety of other issues. I suggest you read more.

    “Put too much emphasis on race.”

    The world does – I don’t. Everyone I’ve ever met makes a point of talking about my race. Including my family.

    Hapas on the whole are obsessed with race; that’s why Half-Asians hype themselves up so much. Because there was way too much baggage associated with it to ever go over smoothly. You seem to ignore the history of war brides, the ugliness of yellow fever, as well as other horrific elements of being biracial.

    It’s understandable to be young and have a naively optimistic view of the world, but again, it’s also irresponsible to deny real world issues in favor of a just world fallacy.

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